As Brene Brown states, we can hold a lot of shame and grief in our identity. Often we believe that the actions of the past define who we are forever. This can weigh us down and hold us back. However, part of building resilience and restoration is choosing to process and reclaim our narrative so we can become the individuals we desire to be. As a young or emerging adult, you may be wondering who you are and who you want to be. This is a lifelong journey, and the truth is we change during various seasons to fit our needs. Our therapists are here to give you some tips we discuss in individual relationship therapy in Brooklyn, NY, so you can begin to understand yourself starting day one of your journey.

Who am I?

A question we begin to ask our teen development. We begin to shape our identities and try to find a space to fit in. We may find it early on, but soon we realize that as life changes, so do we. Once you were popular in high school, now you struggle to find a friends group at work. Once you were quiet, now you find yourself gliding through social situations. The truth is, we are always searching to better understand who we are as we are not stagnating individuals. When we don’t know who we are, it can leave us stuck, enduring low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. Some individuals do not realize that their feelings of deep anxiety and depression are a result of feeling stuck and trapped in life.

What Do I Want from Life?

Do you know what you want in life? I don’t think you have to have a solid answer especially if you are trying to grow and develop during all stages of life. However, some people find themselves stuck. Trapped in an endless cycle of the same patterns. Individuals may find themselves on a different path than peers, leaving them wondering where they went wrong. However, it’s necessary for us to realize that our early childhood influences our decisions in adulthood. If we had a childhood where hope for success and getting out of a challenging situation was nowhere near us, that may influence how we perceived adulthood going forward. Others have always been encouraged to reach for the stars and find themselves succeeding.

The truth is that we cannot control our past, but we do have the choice of how we want to move through the present and future. If you’re being held back because you have never witnessed success, you can be the first. I know it’s scary, but you are capable of reaching out and taking everything the world has to offer. It merely takes one step forward. Individual relationship therapy in Brooklyn, NY can be that first step.

How Do I Begin to Work Through Shame, Trauma, and Grief?

How do the role of shame, guilt, trauma, and grief play in our relationship with ourselves? When we have unprocessed trauma, grief, and shame, it can manifest in the forms of anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, and a lack of setting healthy boundaries. Sometimes we forget that we are the ones who teach others how to treat us and end up accepting the treatment of the world for what it is. You deserve more than that. If you have had a traumatic, shameful event happen in your life and you are struggling to move past and process it, individual relationship therapy in Brooklyn, NY can help. Your relationship with yourself is something you can control and you deserve the peace of healing and forgiveness. By allowing this to happen you can begin to develop a better sense of responsible strength and unequivocal resilience.

What Does it Mean to Build Resilience?

Resilience is your ability to overcome adversity. As a person of color, you know a lot about resilience or being the strong one. However, what is necessary to recognize as a person of color is that often our “strength”, “resilience”, and “toughness” is a result of factor that we had no control over. Unfortunately, being resilient and strong in the black community can also contribute to generational trauma, issues, and stigma in the black community. It’s important to be resilient, but not if it costs you your sanity and power to live a quality and balanced life. In this definition of creating resiliency in individual relationship therapy, it means that we curate it responsibly, recognizing that you can say no, you can set boundaries, and you are more than your strength.

How Does Individual Relationship Therapy in Brooklyn, NY Help Me Grow into the Individual I Desire to Be?

Individual relationship therapy is a place to uncover the roots of your identity and see how it impacted your growth and development. For once, the spotlight is on you. So take it, learn, grow, and heal. Therapy goes at your pace and is a safe place to do exploration. If you believe this is the right support for you, we are happy to help. Call now!

Begin Individual Relationship Therapy in Brooklyn, NY!

Getting support to understand your relationships and how you show up can be enlightening and healing. Our relationship therapists at SG counseling in Brooklyn, NY are here to help. You do not have to do this alone. When you’re ready for support in individual relationship therapy, follow these simple steps:

  1. Email us today at to schedule a free 15 minutes phone consultation.
  2. Let us know who you will like to work with or allow us to find the best fit for you. Then meet with your skilled and compassionate therapists.
  3.  Start showing up for yourself and your relationships in the way you want to.

Other Services SG Wellness Offers:

Finding support for your mental health matters. Our therapists in NY are here for you and your needs. At our therapy practice, we have therapists who identify as black therapists, Latinx therapists, Dominican, & BIPOC. It’s our mission to offer multicultural counseling that serves you and your needs. We offer therapy for people of color, therapy for Latinx individuals, indigenous populations, and middle eastern clients, as well as therapy for men and women. If you’re looking for a safe space we are here for you.

Additionally, if you’re looking for another kind of support other than therapy for self-esteem we have more services. Other services we offer include anxiety treatment and therapy for perfectionismindividual relationship therapy, depression treatmentindividual therapy, and individual relationship therapy. All of our services are offered via online therapy in New York. Areas we serve include Bedstuy, The Broncs, Queens, and Brooklyn, NY. When you’re ready, let’s work together!